February 19, 2013

Qualifying Your Dream/Change (Pt. 2)

Happy Tuesday to You!

I had a lovely day yesterday. Our friends, Jeff Brion and Rosanne Kline, (owners of The Float Lounge, in Laguna Beach, CA) came to help us prepare the property for our upcoming zen In The Garden workshop, Saturday, March 9.

We had a good hard workout digging and moving stones out of the brush, clearing brush and essentially creating safe areas for workshop participants to create their unique expressions when they are here. We also enjoyed some great food together too. Thank you for coming down and doing so much of the grunt work to make it possible for others to participate with us, we are grateful!

My buddy Rory is heading home to Toronto today. We had a great time and we’ll miss him.

Ryan Hughes sent me a text message this morning saying he’s feeling much better since the healing session Rory, Angie, Jennifer (his wife) and I did with him.

He was able to walk four times yesterday, and said he even got a few squats in! Ryan really is the embodiment of the Warrior Spirit, and I’m sure he will recreate himself better than ever with the experiences he’s gaining now.

I know I’ll teach him a lot in the rehabilitation process and that we will have a good time together each time we meet. Keep up the great work healing Ryan!


In yesterday’s post, I asked you to look at your life and ponder what it would be like to have an unexpected accident occur, like has happened to Ryan Hughes.

I asked you to look at your situation now, and sense weather or not you’d feel safe with your life the way it is?

This is simply an exercise in not taking things for granted. We naturally think only other people get hurt, or have a crisis to deal with.

But when we wait until we are in pain, shock, and/or fear to implement and manage the change process, we are unlikely to make well thought out decisions.

Being in fear activates our stress hormones and diminishes our ability to try new methods because the risk of newness when under legitimate threat is too great; you don’t want to try throwing in a cartwheel when running from a lion!

Just to be clear, I’m not suggesting that your life should be planned in advance, like a stocking schedule in a factory. Nor am I suggesting that you take a bleak view of your life to find the motive to create and qualify a dream effectively.

I’m simply sharing an exercise that helps us get clear as to weather we have, or need a dream for ourselves. And I’m suggesting that a dream worth creating and living is one that ultimately enhances your overall sense of safety and security, or well-being.


When we create a dream, goal, or plan for ourselves, it is important to set realistic goals. As a general theme, experienced goal setters such as the late Zig Zigglar, suggested that we shouldn’t shoot to achieve more than 50% of our previous years achievement.

This doesn’t mean that it’s not possible to cultivate that much gain, just that according to statistical analysis, the likelihood of achieving a goal over 50% of your previous achievement drops rapidly.

For example, if you made $50,000 last year, it would be realistic to set a goal to achieve up to $75,000 this year. Based on the 50% rule of goal setting, it would be unrealistic to set your goal for annual earnings at greater than $75,000, but not impossible.

Certainly, there is always someone that can break a rule and come out ahead, but working within the confines of reality is a good place to start developing your magic.

That way, when the magic comes, you already have good habits in place to support the abundance you create.

In summary then, an important tip for qualifying your goal or dream is to try and keep it realistically achievable.

According to the science of goal setting, any goal that is within 50% of your previous achievement has a much greater likelihood of manifesting than one requiring greater than 50% of your last achievement.

In tomorrow’s blog, I’ll continue with more on qualifying your dreams or goals.

Love and chi,
Paul Chek