November 9, 2012

Balancing Your Life!

Happy Day to All!

I had a lovely day teaching my 1-2-3-4 For Overcoming Addiction, Obesity, and Disease workshop yesterday.

We are now half way through the course and my students are all fantastic and willing to grow.


Our day was focused on how to create balance in our lives.

As you can see by my drawing above, the first question that must be asked before balance can be achieved is “Who Am I?”.

We are each a process of becoming. In my system of holistic health and healing, I always identify the client’s dream, goal, or motive first.

Only when my client’s dream, goal or motive are qualified as legitimate and achievable do we move forward with an analysis of their diet and lifestyle factors.

Having a well-qualified, specific goal, dream or objective establishes the necessary motive for change.

Life is always flowing forward in the stream of time. Each choice we make is like turning the wheel of your car as you drive; there is always an input-outcome relationship.

If we don’t know where we are going, any road will get us there…

Having a clearly stated dream or objective is like having a compass bearing or GPS coordinates.

Once I know as a coach what your chosen direction is, I can effectively evaluate the health and lifestyle information I gather and put an effective plan to balance my client’s body-mind such that the changes are congruent with the objective.

That said, anyone can achieve the first step toward balancing their life without the need of any objective other than to be healthy.

The first step is always to restore optimal function to all autonomic systems of your body-mind. Examples of autonomic systems that must be balanced through optimal diet and lifestyle changes so we can experience baseline health are the:
– Thermoregulatory system
– Immune system
– Cardiovascular system
– Limbic emotional system
– Digestive – Eliminative system
– Hormonal system
– Respiratory system
– Musculoskeletal system (postural balance)

These systems (and others) are under autonomic regulation because their performance is essential to your survival.

To the degree that anyone has imbalances in the function and regulation of autonomic systems, they are going to have some degree of fatigue, illness or disease.

Therefore, my first objective is to teach a client/patient what is necessary to balance their essential physiological systems.

Once this is achieved, we can begin modifying specific diet and lifestyle factors, such as food choices, meal sizes, exercise choices, exercise volume and intensity relationships, and psychological objectives so that they are congruent with the stated dream.

The dream is essentially a statement of who you choose to be.

Therefore, as the dreamer, the client is made aware that the process of creating their dream(the means), and the achievement of the dream (the end) are essentially two sides of the same coin.

This is important because most people don’t give themselves any credit or process rewards during the process of creating their dream.

The result is that many people abort their dream or feel so bogged down by the process that they often burn out by the time the dream is realized.

I spent most of my day working with my students on facilitating their own evaluation of where they are with regard to achieving baseline health as the foundation of their dream process.

We looked intimately into why they have often allowed themselves to become unhealthy, even when some of them are teaching health to others.

As is most common, the reason is generally that they have been reacting to the stress they create for themselves by living out other people’s ideas as a means of staying connected to the social matrix or consensual reality.

Once people have enough ego development via the pains and trials of their life, they begin to have palpable sense of who they choose not to be any longer.

At this point, the ego has enough strength and motive to endure the natural separation from the persons, places and things that are associated with the social matrix they emerged from.

If the ego isn’t developed enough to be comfortable being different, or alone in the process of recreating social connections that affirm their dream and the dream process, the pain of critical judgment by loved ones (family) and friends can so deflate self-esteem that they abort their own dream.

This is generally because such people have not learned to take responsibility for loving themselves and need approval from others to feel safe or feel good.

It is because of these challenges that OSHO rightly says, “Freedom is the most dangerous thing you’ll ever experience!”

I’m very proud of my students because they are choosing to be healthy, and FREE!

Ah Ho, Great Spirit!

May you all enjoy witnessing your choices, feeling your body-mind responses to them, and clarifying your dream this weekend.

Love and chi,
Paul Chek